Valentine – Loving Yourself, Loving Others

February 4th, 2025, Giselle.

"A Comprehensive Tarot Spread for Tuning into the Energies of Love and Connection Around Valentine’s Day."

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Valentine’s Day is often associated with romantic love, red roses, and sweet gestures. However, the meaning of this day extends far beyond the celebration of romance alone.

It’s a time when we can pause to reflect on the many forms of love that enrich our lives—from the deep bonds we share with friends and family to the indispensable love we must nurture within ourselves.

In this article, we delve into a specially designed tarot spread that helps you explore and deepen various aspects of love. We call this spread “The Heart’s Journey Spread” or “Loving Yourself, Loving the Other.”

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1. The Meaning of Valentine’s Day and Tarot

Valentine’s Day takes place on February 14 each year and is traditionally seen as an opportunity to celebrate romantic love. Cards, gifts, and special dinners often play a big role.

Yet at its core, Valentine’s Day is about cherishing affection, care, and warmth—not just for your partner but also for yourself and the people closest to your heart.

Tarot is an ancient oracle and symbolic system that can help us better understand the world around us and our own inner processes.

The 78 tarot cards—divided into the Major and Minor Arcana—are imbued with archetypal imagery and universal themes.

These themes often mirror everyday situations such as love, relationships, personal growth, and transformation.

By using a tarot spread specifically focused on the energies of love and connection, we can gain greater clarity about what’s happening in our hearts and which paths lead us toward fulfilment and balance.

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2. The Structure of “The Heart’s Journey Spread”

The spread presented here consists of three main aspects of love:

  1. Self-Love

  2. Partner Energy

  3. Relationship Growth

These three pillars embody the journey of the heart: it begins with self-love, extends to sharing and receiving love with a partner or potential partner, and ultimately leads to growth in the relationship(s) we hold most dear.

The spread is also suitable if you’re single and seeking more insight into the kind of love you want to attract, or if you wish to deepen friendships and family ties.

Card Positions at a Glance

  • Card 1 – Self-Love: How do I relate to myself? What do I need to develop or maintain a healthy dose of self-love?  

  • Card 2 – Partner Energy: What energy does my partner bring into my life? Or, if I’m single, what kind of partner energy do I want to attract?  

  • Card 3 – Relationship Growth: Which steps can I and/or my partner take to help our relationship flourish?

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3. Preparation: Rituals and Intentions

Before you begin this spread, it’s wise to create a peaceful and inviting setting. A loving mindset starts with how you arrange the space around you. Light a pink or red candle—colors commonly associated with love and heart energy.

You can also use essential oils or incense (such as rose incense) to symbolically cleanse the space and foster a warm, romantic atmosphere.

Next, take a moment to clarify your intention. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and focus on the question, “Where do I seek deeper insight or clarity regarding love today?”

If you live with a partner, you can choose to conduct this tarot reading together.

If you’re single, direct the reading toward your own journey of self-love and the possibilities of attracting a loving connection in the future.

4. The Heart’s Journey Spread in Detail

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4.1 Card 1 – Self-Love

The first card represents Self-Love. Love for yourself is the foundation upon which all other relationships are built. When you’re in touch with your own needs and desires, it becomes easier to form healthy relationships with others. This card highlights how you currently care for yourself and which aspects of self-love might need more attention.

Reflection Questions:

  • How can I give daily attention to my own emotions and needs?

  • Am I willing to set aside time and space for myself, just as I do for others?

  • What do I need in order to feel loved, safe, and seen when I’m on my own?

Examples of Tarot Cards:

  • The High Priestess: May indicate intuitive insights and a connection to your inner wisdom. It reminds you not to ignore your inner voice.  

  • The Empress: Symbolizes abundance, maternal care, and creativity. If you draw this card, it’s an invitation to nurture yourself more—both emotionally and physically.  

  • Six of Cups: Can point to past memories, perhaps even childlike wonder or nostalgia. It reminds you that self-love also involves embracing your inner child and allowing for playfulness.

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4.2 Card 2 – Partner Energy

The second card focuses on Partner Energy.

If you’re in a relationship, this card can clarify which qualities your partner brings into your life and how your energies intertwine.

If you’re single, it offers insight into the qualities of a future partner or the kind of dynamic you want to attract.

Reflection Questions:

  • Which qualities do I value most in my partner or in a future partner?

  • What sort of dynamic do we share on emotional, physical, and spiritual levels?

  • How can we better align our energies to support and encourage each other’s growth?

Examples of Tarot Cards:

  • The Lovers: Often linked directly to love and the freedom to choose. When this card appears, it can indicate powerful attraction, as well as a pivotal decision point in your love life.  

  • Two of Cups: Represents harmony, affection, and reciprocity. It’s the card of soulmates, in which both parties give and receive equally.  

  • The Emperor: May point to structure and stability. Perhaps your partner (or a future partner) brings a sense of security, guidance, and decisiveness into your life.

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4.3 Card 3 – Relationship Growth

The third card addresses Relationship Growth, or the future development of your relationship(s).

This doesn’t necessarily apply only to romantic relationships; it can also be about friendships or family ties.

This card highlights opportunities, challenges, and pathways you can explore to strengthen your bond with yourself and another person.

Reflection Questions:

  •  What shared goals and dreams do we have?

  •  How can we encourage each other to grow, both individually and together?

  •  Which obstacles stand in the way of our growth, and how can we overcome them?

Examples of Tarot Cards:

  • The Star: Symbolizes hope, inspiration, and healing. In this position, it could mean a period of renewal is on the horizon, during which you can heal old wounds together.  

  •  Temperance: Emphasizes balance, cooperation, and seeking a middle ground. It can indicate that growth lies in moderating extremes and finding compromise.  

  • The Sun: Radiates positivity and vitality. It points to an optimistic future and a bond marked by mutual support and happiness.

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5. Self-Love as the Key to Relationships

A common pitfall in relationships is forgetting ourselves. We focus so much on pleasing or helping the other person that our own needs and desires fade into the background.

The first part of this spread, the Self-Love card, is therefore essential.

It reminds us that healthy relationships begin with a healthy relationship to ourselves.

Daily Practices for Self-Love:

  • Affirmations: Start the day by speaking or writing positive statements like “I am worthy of love” or “I am open to positive, loving energy.”  

  • Self-Care Rituals: Create moments of rest and nurturing, such as taking a warm bath, walking in nature, or keeping a gratitude journal.  

  • Setting Boundaries: Learn to say no when something doesn’t feel right. Maintaining boundaries is an act of self-respect and helps keep your energy in balance.

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6. Partner Energy and Communication

The second card in the spread draws attention to Partner Energy.

In an existing relationship, this could represent mutual understanding, communication, and the way you interact with each other.

If you’re single, this card can help you realize what energy you want to attract or what lessons you may need to learn before meeting the right person.

Communication Tips:

  • Active Listening: Feel tempted to interrupt? Try letting the other person finish speaking and ask open-ended questions.  

  • Be Vulnerable: Rather than attacking or defending, consider sharing your feelings from a place of vulnerability.  

  • Respect Each Other’s Space: Sometimes, it’s helpful to step back and reflect. Give both yourself and your partner time to process what’s been said.

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7. Growing Together: Relationship Growth in Practice

The third card in the spread addresses Relationship Growth. Whether it’s romantic love, friendship, or family ties, every relationship needs nourishment and attention to thrive. Growth isn’t just about sharing the good times; it also involves working together during moments of conflict or disagreement.

Practical Steps Toward Growth:

  • Set Shared Goals: Make a list of things you want to achieve together—traveling, saving for a home, or deepening spiritual practices.  

  • Celebrate Milestones: Both small and large achievements deserve celebration, whether it’s a nice meal out or a simple yet heartfelt word of thanks.  

  • Support Each Other’s Passions: Show genuine interest in each other’s hobbies and interests. This not only strengthens your bond but also fosters feelings of appreciation and recognition.

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Moving Forward

After completing The Heart’s Journey Spread, it’s important to integrate the insights you’ve gained rather than letting them remain in your journal.

Tarot can act as a mirror—the cards reveal what lies beneath the surface.

It’s up to you to use this knowledge as a source of inspiration and decisive action.

  • Repeat Regularly: Consider doing this spread monthly or quarterly. This way, you can monitor your progress and note any changes in your love life.  

  • Trust Your Intuition: The cards provide direction, but your own intuition is the compass. Pay attention to what truly resonates and don’t be afraid of making “mistakes.” The process of learning and growing never ends.  

  • Share Your Insights: You might consider sharing your experiences with friends, family, or a spiritual community. Others can sometimes offer new perspectives and inspire further reflection.

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The Heart’s Journey Spread is an invitation to consciously reflect on the different layers of love in your life—from the vital foundation of self-love to the dynamics of a (future) partner and the ways in which your relationship can flourish.

Valentine’s Day serves as a symbolic focal point, but the lessons and insights stretch well beyond this single day in February.

By opening your heart, following your intuition, and integrating tarot’s messages into your life, you can cultivate a deeper, more fulfilling connection with yourself and those around you.

Love is a journey, not a destination. Each chapter brings new challenges, discoveries, and opportunities.

The tarot cards can serve as wise traveling companions, encouraging you to look at your own heart and the hearts of others with compassion, authenticity, and courage.

May this spread inspire the insights that carry you forward on your unique path of love.

Try it and see what it can mean for you!

Giselle.

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